Change can sometimes be a painful process. I was thinking back to how I have changed as a Christian over the last 6 years, and what has caused me to change. I have come to realize that I will never reach perfection. Even though I knew that I still tried. I tried to play the part. I tried to do what I saw other Christians do. Dress how they dressed. I went through a stage of wearing mostly skirts and gauchos. Okay, let me tell ya ladies! My short legs and thighs have no place in gauchos. Ever! My husband looked at me one day because I was battling the right and wrong of it for awhile. I sought scripture and the advice of other Christians and he said to me “I like you in jeans. I don’t mind skirts but not every day.” He knew it was not a biblical matter of sin or that I was convicted of God. But I was worried about what others thought was right. That is the wrong reason to do anything. I would listen to only a certain type of Christian music. Looking down on any that I didn’t agree with. As I sat and listened to my secular music as well…I Believed that only a certain type of worship was acceptable to God. It was okay to holler, preach and shout amen. It was okay to get emotional when you sing an old fashioned heartfelt song to God and raise your hand but it’s not okay to raise your hand and get emotional during a contemporary Christian song that is God-honoring.
I tried to live to the standards of other Christians. As Christians, our Bible should be where we go to to find our standards; not the convictions of other Christians, or their judgments. Yes, we should go to others for guidance. Yes, we should listen to the Pastor’s warnings. Yes, we should be strong on our doctrine and what the Bible says. Yes, the preacher should preach on sin. If it lines up with God’s Word then we ought to listen. We better listen because it is coming out of God’s Word from God’s man. But…I am not talking about deep doctrinal issues here. I am talking about the preferences of others in their Christian walk. We cannot live by what others say but what God’s Word teaches us. When we go around looking down on others for doing or not doing a certain thing then we ourselves need to check our hearts! Pride sure can set in real quick. It is an ugly thing that will rear it’s head and deter others from Jesus. We need to have discernment in all things, study the Bible, seek God for answers, go to a credible source for advice. Get guidance from other Christian women who are real!
Don’t be a high and mighty Christian full of pride. I have been there. It is no fun. God will soon knock you down. It hurts. Don’t be on the other end of the spectrum either. A Christian that accepts everything and anything. A “don’t judge me Christian” Sin is okay. Everyone sins. Everyone is a child of God. All religion is of God (that’s a lie as well that satan tricks many with.) If we accept sin in the church and have absolutely no standards or preaching of God’s truth it is no good for us. We can’t lead our children correctly. They won’t take much of a stand on anything because everything goes.
Neither one of these is okay. They are both slippery roads to go down. Find a balance in your Christian walk. I know it is hard. I struggle with it. We need to be women approved in God’s eyes, not mans. As humans, that is difficult because we all want acceptance. I understand that to my conservative Christian friends I will sound weak like I have gone off the deep end to the liberal side. When my liberal Christian friends hear some of the stances I refuse to back down on they will call me old-fashioned and out of touch.
There are things I disagree with on both sides. Some churches are ridden with traditionalism and legalism, and some with emotionalism and humanism. Not all, but some. We should be Bible-believers. Jesus-loving women! Women who want to be real. Leading others to Christ and closer to Christ. Let us take a stand with some kind of fierce love that only Jesus can give us. A love that looks beyond…
“Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the LORD pondereth the hearts.” Proverbs 21:2
“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.”
“For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12
“Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.” 1 John 4:1
“Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.” Colossians 2:8
“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” Matthew 10:16